Mother, what can I give you?

After having reached the height of his career a man felt a duty to repay his mother back for all that she had done for him.

He asked, “Mother, what can I give you? What can I do for you? I sincerely wish to repay you for the sacrifices you made for me and for all the love you have showered upon me.”

Jab too Paida hua kitna majboor tha (video)

Mother looked surprised and said, “Why do you think about it?It was my duty so I did it, you don”t have to repay me. Even if you want to, there is no way a man can ever repay his mother.”

Despite her continuous refusal to ask for anything, the son persisted. To put an end to the discussion, she said, “All right. If you must, then tonight you sleep on my bed, with me, just as you used to when you were a baby.”

He said, “That”s a strange thing to ask for, but if it pleases you, I will.”

As soon as he fell asleep, the mother got up and brought a bucket of water. She poured a mug full of water on his side. Feeling disturbed by the wetness under him, in his sleep he moved away to the other side of the bed. As he settled down, his mother poured another mug of water on the other side. In his slumber he tried to find space towards the foot post of the bed.

Sometime later he woke up feeling that this part of the bed too was damp. He got up and saw his mother, with the mug in her hand. He asked angrily, “What are you doing mother? Why don”t you let me sleep? How do you expect me to sleep on a wet bed?”

Mother said, “I slept with you, when you wet the bed in the night. I would change your nappy and move you to the dry part of the bed, while I slept on the wet side. You wanted to repay me. Can you sleep here even for one night with me on a damp bed? If you can, I”ll take it that you have repaid me.”

How eloquently the story above demonstrates that we can”t even begin to repay the care, love and attention a mother showers her child throughout the course of life. 
May Allah (SWT) enable us to be of service and comfort to both our parents when we can and may He grant us PATIENCE to serve them during their old age.

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Apni khiqat pae ker ghaur insaan zara

Prayers and its Effects Hadith

The Holy Prophet (p.bu.h.) said: ” The one who takes prayer light is not of me. No, by Allah, such a person will not reach the Haudh, Pond of abundant.”

Man-La-Yahdhurul-Faghih, vol. 1,  p.152

Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: “If there be a stream at the house of one of you in which the one washes himself five times a day, will there remain anything from the dirt over his body? Verily, the likeness of prayers is the same as the stream. The person who establishes ritual prayers clears out his sins thereby, except for the sin that takes him out from Faith he believes in.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 82, p. 236

The Holy Prophet (p.bu.h.) said: “An obligatory prayer, with Allah, is equivalent to one thousand Hajj pilgrimages and one thousand Umrah performances (voluntary pilgrimages to the Ka’ba) which are right and accepted.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 99, p.14

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “Do not waste your prayers, because, surely, the person who wastes them will be raised with Croesus (Qarun) and Haman so that it is rightfully certain for Allah to put the one in hell with hypocrites.”  

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 83, p. 14

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “Say each of your prayer as if it were your last prayer.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 69, p. 408

Imam Amir-ul-Mu’mineen Ali (a.s.) said: “If a prayerful person knew to what extent he was surrounded by His Mercy, he would never raise his head from (the state of) prostration.”

Tasnif-i-Qurar-ul-Hikam, p. 175

Imam Baqir (a.s.) said: “On the Reckoning Day, the First thing that the servant will be reckoned for is the prayer; therefore, if it is accepted, the rest (good actions) will be accepted, too, (otherwise, his other good deeds will not avail him.)”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 7, p. 267

At the last moments of his life, Imam Sadiq (a.s.) called his relations and companions and told them: “Verily, our intercession never reaches the one who takes prayers lightly.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 82, p. 236

Imam Baqir, the fifth Imam, (a.s.) said: “There are ten things that when a person meets Allah, the Almighty and Glorious, with them, he will enter Heaven:

1. Confessing that there is no god besides Allah.
2. And that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.
3. Acknowledging what has come down to the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) from Allah (the Quran).
4. Establishing regular prayers.
5. Giving alms.
6. Fasting Ramadhan.
7. Performing the Pilgrimage (Hajj) to the Sacred House.
8. Kindness to the lovers of Allah.
9. Detachment from the enemies of Allah.
10. And, avoiding any alcoholic beverage.”

Khisal by Saduq, p. 432

Imam Amir-ul-Mu’mineen Ali (a.s.) said: “For the God-fearing, prayer is a means of seeking nearness to Allah; and for the weak, the Hajj (pilgrimage to Mecca) is as good as Jihad (fighting in the way of Allah). For every thing there is a levy, and the levy of the body is fasting. The Jihad of a woman is to afford pleasant company to her husband.”

Nahjul-Balagha, saying 136

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “There comes no night but that the angel of death calls to the dead in the graves and inquires what they regret for today when they have vividly seen (and known) this (next life). Then the dead will say: ‘Verily, we regret and envy the believers who are in their mosques and they are praying while we are not; they give alms and we do not; they fast during Ramadhan but we do not; they donate in charity what they have more than the need of their family members while we do not; …”  

Irshad-ul-Qulub, p. 53

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “At the (appointed) time of every prayer (salat), I hear a caller who calls and says: ‘O children of Adam! keep up prayers in order to extinguish the fire you have lit against yourselves (by committing sins).”  

Mustadrak-ul-Wasa’il, vol. 3, p. 102

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “Be careful of the prayers, for, on the Day of Resurrection, when Allah, the Exalted, will bring the servant (for reckoning), the first thing that He will ask him about will be the prayer. If the one brings it completely, he will be of the people of salvation, otherwise, he will be thrown in the Fire.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 82, p. 202

Abubasir said that he visited Umm-i-Hamidah (Musa-ibn-Ja’far’s (a.s.) mother) in order to console her for the death of Ja’far-ibn-Muhammad (a.s.). Then she wept and he wept because of her weeping. After that, she said: ‘O’ Aba Muhammad! If you had seen Ja’far-ibn-Muhammad when he was on his deathbed, you would have observed a wonderful thing: He opened his eyes and said to gather all of his relatives.’ Then, she continued saying that they gathered them all with no exception. Then he (a.s.) looked at them and said: ‘Verily, our intercession does not reach the one who takes prayers lightly.”  

Wasa’il-ush-Shi’ah, vol. 4, p. 26

The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said: “The worship done by the one who earns his living on unlawful money is similar to a building constructed upon sand.”

Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 84, p. 258

(*)Healthy Diet--Ayurvedic Recipe(*)

Vata Balancing Mung Bean Soup

You will need:

1/2 cup mung dhal (split hulled mung beans)

4 cups water

1/2 tsp turmeric

1/2 tsp cumin seed

1 pinch hing (asafetida)

1/2 tsp minced fresh ginger

1 tsp fresh lemon juice

1 tsp chopped fresh cilantro

2 tbsps ghee

Rock salt to taste

Wash the mung dhal. Add water and the turmeric and cook until dhal is tender. Stir occasionally and remove any scum that forms on top.

Add salt, ginger and lemon juice and puree in a blender to a smooth consistency.

Heat the ghee until it is clear.

Add the hing and cumin seed and stir briefly to release aroma and flavor. Remove from heat.

Pour the ghee-spice mixture over the soup. Stir.

Garnish with cilantro and serve hot.

(Serves 1)

Carrot Ginger Soup: Health Diet Recipe

If you want a cooked version of carrot ginger soup that’s easy as pie to prepare and easier still to devour, try this recipe on for size. It’s fast, flavorful, crowd-pleasing, and easy to modify, too. Always add a bit of coconut milk at the end for richness. But you could lower the fat by using rice, almond, or soy milk, and you could also leave out the milk altogether. It adds a lovely creaminess, but the soup will be wonderful without it, too.

Carrot Ginger and Coconut Soup (makes 7-8 cups)

1 tbsp coconut oil

1/2 cup onion

1/2 cup celery

2 inch piece of ginger, peeled and chopped

4 cups veggie stock

1 small potato, white or sweet, coarsely chopped

1.25 lb carrots, coarsely chopped

1/2-1 tsp salt

1 1/2 tsp curry powder

1/3 cup coconut milk

1) Sautee the onions, celery, and ginger in 1 tbsp coconut oil in a medium sized pot until the onions are translucent (about ten minutes).

2) Add the veggie stock, carrots, potato, curry powder, and salt to the pot.

3) Bring the liquid to a boil, and then lower it to a simmer. Let the mix simmer for about twenty-five minutes, or until all of the carrots are nice and tender.

4) When the carrots are tender, turn off the flame. It’s time to blend! You can either use an immersion blender, or you can transfer the soup to a blender and blend it all at once, or, if your blender is smaller, in batches. Remember that hot soup will create pressure in your blender as you work, so remove lids carefully.

5) Transfer the blended soup back to your pot, and warm through. Now the magic happens. If you’re not using coconut milk, go ahead and serve. But if you are—as well you should be—you add the milk now.

Tomato Chutney:

6 ripe tomatoes (chopped small)

½ teaspoon asafetida

2 tablespoons ghee

1 teaspoons mustard seeds

1 teaspoon whole cumin

1 teaspoon fennel seeds

1 stick cinnamon

4 cloves

1 teaspoon finely minced ginger

2 minced green chilies

2 teaspoons ground coriander

¾ teaspoon turmeric

½ teaspoon dried oregano

2 bay leaves

¾ teaspoon salt

1 table spoon raw sugar or molasses

Fresh coriander leaves for garnish

• Prepare a masala by heating ghee. Add mustard, fennel and cumin seeds. When they turn light brown, add the cinnamon stick, cloves, bay leaves, chillies, ginger and powdered spices. It will be a slightly pasty, bumpy texture in the ghee.

• Cook over a medium heat for a few minutes before adding the chopped tomatoes. Let the mixture cook down for 20-30 minutes, stirring often to prevent burning and clumping.

• Finish by adding salt and sugar. Pour into one lare or several small dipping bowls, then garnish with fresh coriander leaves.(Serves 4)

Stress Treatment

Self-Care at Home

When you find yourself feeling the bad effects of stress, you need to take action immediately. The sooner you begin the process of treatment, the easier it will be and the quicker you will be back to your normal state.

• The first step in the process is to try to identify the cause of the stress. Sometimes this is a known source such as a deadline at work, a pile of unpaid bills, or a relationship that is not working out. It can at times be more difficult to find the source of your problem.
  
  
  • Often, many relatively mild stressors occurring at once can bring on the same stress as a larger problem or known source of anxiety or worry.
    
  • Some people experience stress from events that occurred in the past (post-traumatic stress disorder).

• If you can identify the source of your stress, remove yourself from it or address the situation. That may be all that is needed to resolve the situation and your anxiety. Even if you are only able to get away for a few seconds or minutes, the break is important and can help you on the way to a more permanent solution.
  
  
  • This break can be accomplished by physically removing yourself from the provoking situation (such as an argument) or mentally removing yourself from the stressor (such as financial worries) through a mental distraction, often called a time-out.
    
  • The point of these actions is to allow you a moment to relax and formulate a plan for dealing with the problem at hand. Just having a plan can be a great stress reliever. It gives you a set of positive steps that you can work on to get yourself back to your baseline and out of the stressful situation.
    
  • These steps should be broken down into tasks you can accomplish easily. Working toward a goal is rewarding. It prevents the hopelessness and lost feeling that can accompany stress and make it worse.

• If you are unable to determine the source of your stress, you need to seek outside help. Sometimes discussing your situation with family, friends, or a spiritual adviser can be helpful. If these routes are not successful, you should make an appointment with your doctor or a mental health counselor to help determine the source of the stress and rule out any potentially reversible medical causes of your stress.

Stress Treatment – Herbs That Can Help Ease Stress

Both Siberian and Panax ginseng, which bolster the adrenal glands, may also be effective in coping with stress. These stress-fighting herbs are sometimes called “adaptogens” (because they help the body “adapt” to challenges) or “tonics” (because they “tone” the body, making it more resilient). All can be safely taken together.

Other herbs and nutritional supplements, used singly or together or combined with the supplements above, may be of value in special circumstances. For stress-induced anxiety, try kava, which is best reserved for high-stress periods lasting up to three months. Take melatonin if worry is keeping you up at night, and St. John’s wort if stress is accompanied by mild depression.

Siberian Ginseng

Dosage: 100-300 mg 3 times a day.

Comments: Standardized to contain at least 0.8% eleutherosides.

Warnings: Siberian ginseng may interfere with heart medications. Check with your doctor if you’re taking blood pressure or heart medications. Siberian ginseng may cause mild diarrhea and restlessness.

Panax Ginseng

Dosage: 100-250 mg twice a day.

Comments: Standardized to contain at least 7% ginsenosides.

Warnings: Don’t take Panax ginseng if you have uncontrolled high blood pressure or a heart rhythm irregularity. Don’t use Panax ginseng if you are pregnant. Consult your doctor if you’re using blood pressure medications. Panax ginseng increases the risk of overstimulation and stomach upset when taken with neurology drugs such as Ritalin. Don’t use Panax ginseng if you take MAO inhibitor drugs. Long-term use of Panax ginseng may require a change in insulin or other diabetes medications. If you’re taking the diuretic furosemide, Panax ginseng may intensify the blood pressure-lowering effects of the drug.

Kava

Dosage: 250 mg 3 times a day as needed.

Comments: Look for standardized extracts in pill or tincture form that contain at least 30% kavalactones.

Warnings: Pregnant or breast-feeding women should not use kava. Don’t take kava if you have Parkinson’s disease. Possible kava side effects include stomach upset, yellow skin, loss of appetite, labored breathing, blurred vision, bloodshot eyes, walking difficulties, intoxication, and skin rashes. Kava may cause excessive drowsiness if taken with antidepressants, antihistamines, muscle relaxants, narcotic pain relievers, psychiatric drugs (antipsychotics, buspirone), sedatives, or tranquilizers.

Melatonin

Dosage: 1-3 mg before bedtime.

Comments: Start with the lower dose and increase as needed.

Warnings: Affects hormone levels and the brain. Caution is advised in those using drugs with similar effects, including antidepressants and hormone drugs. May cause excessive drowsiness if taken with sedatives or drugs that have a sedative effect such as antihistamines, muscle relaxants, and narcotic pain relievers. May cause adverse interactions if taken with steroids.

St. John’s Wort

Dosage: 300 mg 3 times a day.

Comments: Should be standardized to contain 0.3% hypericin.

Warnings: If you’re taking conventional antidepressant drugs, consult you doctor before adding or switching to St. John’s wort. If you develop a rash or have difficult breathing, get immediate help. Side effects can include constipation, upset stomach, fatigue, dry mouth, dizziness, and increased sensitivity to the sun.

-~Sign Of Stress-~

What are the signs of stress? You probably already have a 
personal stress gauge and know your own symptoms of 
stress.  Stress is extremely personal, and so is your reaction 
to stressful scenarios.  That's why the signs and symptoms of 
stress tend to vary from person to person.

For instance, one of the first things that happens when the 
body undergoes stress is blood is diverted away from your 
digestive tract to your large muscles causing the stomach 
and intestines to empty their contents preparing the body for 
quick action.  The fight or flight syndrome.  That's why when 
some people experience stress, anxiety or nervousness; they 
also experience stomach cramps, nausea, vomiting or 
diarrhea.

Below is a list of some of the potential symptoms or signs of 
stress that are commonly associated with the emotional 
impact of stress.

Symptoms of Stress

• Anxious
  
• Mind-racing
  
• Chest palpitations
  
• Problems concentrating
  
• Anxiety
  
• Easily irritated
  
• Avoiding people and responsibilities
  
• Focusing on negative thoughts
  
• Anger issues
  
• Headaches
  
• Digestive problems
  
• Muscle tension and pain
  
• Sleep issues
  
• Fatigue
  
• High blood pressure
  
• Weight loss or gain
  
• Skins problems - breakouts, rashes, hives
  
• Hair loss
  
• Decreased sex drive
  
• Nervous behaviors - nail biting, pacing, teeth grinding

Get Pro-Active About Stress Relief

If you recognize these signs of stress and experience even three of these 
symptoms simultaneously, you are probably dealing with a great deal of stress.
All of these symptoms have the potential to harm your health and emotional 
well-being.  If you think your stress is out of your control, consult your doctor. The 
point is to be pro-active against stress.  If you do nothing to reduce or relieve the 
stress in your life, your health will most certainly suffer.  Can these signs of stress 
make you sick?  They sure can.  Can these signs of stress age you?  You know 
they can.  What triggers your signs of stress?  Again, it varies from person to 
person, but it could be one, or a combination of the stress-triggers listed below.

Top 10 Stress-Triggers

• Finances
  
• Health issues
  
• Marriage - relationships
  
• Career pressures
  
• Parenting - family
  
• Aging parents
  
• Legal issues
  
• Scheduling - "to-do" list
  
• Education
  
• Transportation

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